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Relationships: Building Trust, with Brene Brown

Relationships: Building Trust, with Brene Brown

Hello friends,

We’re continuing on the theme of healthy relationships this week, this time focusing on trust. While trust in relationships is a very relevant topic for all of us, it can take on new meaning when you are living with mental illness.

To get the conversation started we’ll watch a 10-minute video on the foundations of trust by social scientist and author/speaker Brene Brown. She introduces the acronym “BRAVING” to describe the essential elements of building and maintaining trust in relationships. We’ll discuss how these themes have played out in our own lives, and in particular the challenges we’ve faced when mental illness is involved.

Our warm-up question for this week:

Tell us about a time you laughed uncontrollably. What (or who) made it so funny?

Relationships: The Four Attachment Styles

Relationships: The Four Attachment Styles

Hello friends,

Attachment is an important concept in psychology that influences a lot of how we interact with others, from romantic partners to total strangers and everyone in between. We’re going to take an initial dive into this topic by exploring the four main attachment styles.

These attachment “styles” are often discussed in the context of intimate partner relationships, but you’ll see clearly in this overview how they shape all sorts of relationships in our lives. This is different from personality traits, which is something we’ll probably touch on as well.

Our warm-up question for this week:

What was your favorite or most memorable school field trip?

Stronger Together: A Different Five-Second Rule

Stronger Together: A Different Five-Second Rule

Hello friends,

 
You know the “5-second rule,” right? Well this week we’re going to talk about a new 5-second rule that has nothing to do with floor cleanliness. This one is all about how we establish first impressions of people so that we less likely unconsciously categorize them in biased or unfair ways.
 
We’ll watch a brief video featuring Quita Christison, a youth empowerment activist who, due to a rare form of dwarfism, is often mistaken for a preteen at first impression. The acronym tool she urges her listeners to use is STOP, which stands for “see the other person.” We all want to be seen for who we are, so what better way to help make that happen than to start by paying it forward!
 
Our warm-up question for this week:
 
Who did you think was the “coolest” person when you were a kid, whether they were a celebrity or someone you knew in your day-to-day life?

Stronger Together: Screen Time

Hello friends,

I think we’d all agree that excessive screen time is a real challenge facing our youth. But what about you and me? Do you know how much time you actually spend looking at a screen between work, time on your phone, and even watching a “traditional” TV (yes, those are screens, too!).

In this week’s Stronger Together conversation we’re going to talk about screen time: the good, the bad, and the backlit. We’ll listen to a brief episode of the Verywell Mind Podcast on how to improve mental strength by better managing screen time, and since it’s audio only we can even look away from our screens while we listen along!

Our warm-up question for this week:

What’s your favorite app on your phone or tablet, and why?

Alex Trouteaud

Stronger Together: Boosting Self-Confidence

It’s easy to spot someone who is full of confidence, but what does that actually mean? Why does confidence seem to come easier to some people than others? And what happens to our mental well-being when we persistently struggle to feel confident?
In this week’s Stronger Together conversation we’re going to talk about what it means to be confident, where it comes from, and how we can boost it when we need a lift. Perhaps just as importantly, we’ll talk about when it’s okay not to feel confident, and how we can be at peace with that mental state.
Our warm-up question for this week:
If you could take as many free vacations as you want for the rest of your life, but you were only allowed to go to one place for those vacations, where would you go and why? (since I know you’ll ask: yes, you can bring other people with you!)

Stronger Together: The Empathy Gap

Hi friends,

This week we’re going to talk about one reason why we tend to do things that are perplexing even to us. You know the frustration: you think about a behavior you engaged in or a decision you made a few days ago and ask yourself, “why did I do that?
The concept we’re going to explore is called the “empathy gap,” and it turns out that it’s a part of how we’re hard-wired as human beings. The good news is that by being more aware of it, we might (occasionally) be less prone to its downside effects when it comes to mental well-being.
Our warm-up question for this week:
What’s the best dish, recipe, or meal someone has ever cooked for you, and what makes it so special?
Here’s the login info for this Thursday at 7pm:
Meeting ID: 939 9668 7354
Passcode: 11815
– Alex Trouteaud