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Creating Community Where It Is Needed

Creating Community Where It Is Needed

Hello friends,

One day photographer Danielle Hark found herself at her lowest point ever when something just “clicked” for her. She had been suffering from severe depression, had fallen to the floor in the midst of a panic attack, and then, “click”… she took a picture. That moment not only changed her life but set her on a course to change the lives of many other people living with mental illness.

We’re going to watch a brief video of Danielle’s story and talk about what it means to create community where (and in what form) it is needed. If you get the chance, please also check out the art and community experience Danielle founded at the Broken Light Collective. It’s an inspiring story that each of us can relate to in our own way. Join us for the conversation!

Our warm-up question for this week:

Without showing it, describe one photograph you have that you will never forget.

See you soon,

Alex

How spirituality can help protect us from despair and mental illness

How spirituality can help protect us from despair and mental illness

Hello friends,

Have you ever felt that receiving effective treatment for mental illness requires that we turn away from religious or spiritual support and instead seek help from clinicians? It’s easy to understand why this idea might have developed in encouraging people to seek structured, evidence-based care from trained mental health professionals. Have we gone too far in dismissing the role of religion and spirituality in protecting our mental health and combatting forms of mental illness?

Dr. Lisa Miller, a psychologist at Columbia University, would say that we’ve definitely underplayed the role of spirituality in preventing and treating depression specifically. In this week’s discussion we’re going to watch a brief video where Dr. Miller describes her research and what she and her team have found over multiple studies. Spoiler alert: she finds convincing evidence that spirituality–as defined by our connection to “something bigger than ourselves” (i.e., God)–can protect the human brain against despair and be an effective treatment for depression via altruism.

Maybe it’s time we move from “either or” to “both and” when it comes to religion and treatment for mental illness? Or is that a step in the wrong direction? Join us tomorrow to share your thoughts!

Our warm-up question for this week:

It’s said that certain scents can be very strongly tied to memories. What’s a memory you have, good or bad, that has a distinct smell associated with it?

See you soon,

Alex

No one wants to say, “I don’t trust God”

No one wants to say, “I don’t trust God”

This week we’re going to consider two unrelated but complementary personal perspectives on mental illness. We’ll start by watching a brief clip from an installment in a PBS series called “Mysteries of Mental Illness.” In this clip, pastor Michael Walrond talks about labels, race, the church, and his experiences with depression.

After discussing this video, we’ll then listen to the poem “in this season we heal” by poet Trapeta B. Mayson. We’ll talk about how these two videos tap into a similar set of experiences, but also how they represent different ways of thinking about the pain and loneliness that can accompany mental illness.

If you haven’t been able to join one of our conversations in a while and are unsure when is the right time to drop in, I might suggest that this week is a perfect opportunity to reconnect. We’ll be so glad to see you!

Our warm-up question for this week:

If you could live in a world that was just like a board game, which board game would you want it to be like, and why?

See you soon,

Alex

They’re Contagious! (And That’s a Good Thing)

They’re Contagious! (And That’s a Good Thing)

Hello friends,

Hopefully you’ll forgive my “maybe it’s still too soon” subject line, because this week’s conversation topic is another great one and it even builds on our discussion last week.

That’s right: *emotions* are contagious. I say that’s a “good thing,” but the reality is that emotional contagion can be detrimental to our well-being, too. I guess it’s not really bad or good…it just is.

We’ll watch a brief video (https://youtu.be/TqRYpEDDCrg) on the subject that, while tailored to a business audience, is just as relevant to us outside of work and volunteer roles. It makes you think really hard a out the emotions you pass on to others, as well as what you allow yourself to receive from others. Our warm-up question for this week:

If you could only eat at one restaurant again for the rest of your life, but you could eat there as many times as you wished, what restaurant would it be and why?

See you soon,

Alex

To Overcome Emotional Burden, We Need to Understand Emotion Better

To Overcome Emotional Burden, We Need to Understand Emotion Better

Hello friends,

Have you ever wanted to yell at someone to “stop being so emotional!” Perhaps someone has said something similar to you? Or maybe sometimes you feel overtaken by emotion, and you wonder how other people are able to keep them at bay?

It turns out that a lot of what we think is happening with our emotions is closer to mythology than fact. Worse yet, our own brain will trick us into thinking emotions are something other than what they really are. What should we do about this to support strong mental well-being?

As always, we need to start with awareness and education. This week we’re going to watch a helpful video to get better educated about emotions and debunk some commonly-held myths. This learning can go a long way to helping us not just understand our own emotions better, but also turning them into a tool for personal growth.

Our warm-up question for this week:

Who is the most “emotional” character you can think of from a movie or TV show, and what makes them “emotional”?

See you soon,

Alex

Why We Need To Be “Radically” Honest

Why We Need To Be “Radically” Honest

Hello friends,

This week we’ll talk about “radical honesty,” a concept that is frequently used in addiction recovery but is useful for all of us. We’ll watch the first ~ 6 minutes of a video on The Power of Radical Honesty, but the full video is 15 minutes. I encourage you to watch the full 15 minutes beforehand if possible.

Our warm-up question for this week:

What’s a really nice compliment you received, and what impact did it have on you?

See you soon,

Alex