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Coping With the Only Constant in Life

Coping With the Only Constant in Life

Hello friends,

The quote, “change is the only constant in life” is typically attributed to the ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus, though I prefer two alternate translations: “all entities move and nothing remains still” and “everything changes and nothing stands still.” I like these two translations because they frame change as a natural state of being, rather than as a disruptive force.

Who am I kidding, though: change feels inherently disruptive.

That’s why this week we’re going to watch a quick video titled, “The Four Stages Of Coping With Change” and talk about our own experiences managing (or maybe just suffering through) these stages of change. This is a good time of year to contemplate how we might better cope with change in the months ahead… or at least better prepare ourselves for the possibility of change.

Our warm-up question for this week:

When you were a kid, what was a big change/hope/dream you wished for?

See you soon,
Alex

Putting All Our Cards On The Table

Putting All Our Cards On The Table

Hello friends,

One of my favorite things about our group discussions is that we get to go pretty deep into mental health topics that don’t come up in conversation often enough. It’s good also to step back on occasion to “see the forest through the trees,” as the saying goes. All the topics we discuss are about people, after all. It’s not about illnesses, or treatment paradigms, or biases, or strategies; it’s about the people in our lives, and about ourselves.

We’re going to watch a beautifully composed 7-minute video to bring this point into focus on Thursday. It’s the story of Kevin Love, who you may or may not be familiar with as a longtime star player in the NBA. His story is both extraordinary because of who he is and how he has shaped his life in response to mental health challenges, while also being entirely ordinary and relatable because of the honesty with which he talks about these challenges. He sums up his approach as “putting all my cards on the table.” Deal!

Our warm-up question for this week:

What is your favorite game to play, whether a sport, a card game, or anything else?

See you soon,
Alex

Preparing for Struggles Ahead

Preparing for Struggles Ahead

Just last week we had a lighthearted (but thoughtful and productive) conversation about joy. What a difference a week can make.

I suspect you are as heartbroken as I am, and maybe more. Let’s talk about it tomorrow, shall we?

I also want to share with you an article sent to me that was published in WaPo. On the surface it’s about Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD, which we’ve discussed previously in Stronger Together. The underlying theme, however, is about how we prepare for mental health struggles ahead. The article was published Oct. 5, two days before the attack on Israel.

Our warm-up question for this week:

How are you feeling right now, and what have been the range of emotions you’ve felt over the past few days?

See you soon,
Alex

Creating the Biology of Courage

Creating the Biology of Courage

Hello friends,

I’m excited because we’re going to make a new friend this week! It’s someone you’ve known for a while, but probably have had a cordial relationship with, at best: stress. That’s right, we’re going to make friends with stress.

Right about now you might be asking yourself, “with friends like these, who needs enemies?” Let’s just say stress is that neighbor, family member, or co-worker who is kind of intense, but just misunderstood.

We’ll learn more by watching parts of the video “How to Make Stress Your Friend” by psychologist Kelly McGonigal, who walks us through a few studies to elucidate key points about the effects of stress, and importantly, how we can create a “biology of courage” in the face of stress.

Our warm-up question for this week:

What’s the most courageous thing you’ve witnessed someone do? Try to think of someone you knew well, and not a distant celebrity, historical, or political figure.

See you soon,

Alex

To Overcome Emotional Burden, We Need to Understand Emotion Better

To Overcome Emotional Burden, We Need to Understand Emotion Better

Hello friends,

Have you ever wanted to yell at someone to “stop being so emotional!” Perhaps someone has said something similar to you? Or maybe sometimes you feel overtaken by emotion, and you wonder how other people are able to keep them at bay?

It turns out that a lot of what we think is happening with our emotions is closer to mythology than fact. Worse yet, our own brain will trick us into thinking emotions are something other than what they really are. What should we do about this to support strong mental well-being?

As always, we need to start with awareness and education. This week we’re going to watch a helpful video to get better educated about emotions and debunk some commonly-held myths. This learning can go a long way to helping us not just understand our own emotions better, but also turning them into a tool for personal growth.

Our warm-up question for this week:

Who is the most “emotional” character you can think of from a movie or TV show, and what makes them “emotional”?

See you soon,

Alex