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How to Forgive Others

How to Forgive Others

Hi folks!
Rev. James is leading our gathering tonight at 7 p.m. We will watch a short video and then discuss, hopefully learning from one another and sharing our thoughts and insights. Please join us!
How to Forgive Others: One of life’s biggest challenges is forgiving someone for wronging you. Join us in watching a short video about forgiveness followed by an open discussion on how we might  forgive others and move forward from that hurt.
Kirsten
Prescribing More Creativity

Prescribing More Creativity

Hello friends,

We have some really creative and artistic people in this discussion group. There’s also people like me, who perhaps aren’t naturally artistic but strive to be more creative and appreciative of the art we encounter. This week we’re going to explore a few different ways in which mental health and art can intersect, from giving us a language to express complex feelings to connecting us with people and ideas that can bring healing.
In advance of our conversation this week, please take a few minutes to read this brief but touching opinion piece about how a pop musician’s art changed a young person’s life in profound ways. To start off our conversation we’ll watch this short video about how a newfound habit of creative expression set a mentally ill young adult on a path of healing and transformation. Perhaps you have a story to share about how art has helped you on your mental health journey? If so, I hope you’ll consider sharing your experience with us.
Our warm-up question for this week:

Check out this website of Texas Mental Health Creative Arts Contest winners. Which image stands out to you, and why?

See you soon,
Alex

Allowing Compassion and Frustration to Coexist

Allowing Compassion and Frustration to Coexist

Hello friends,

The Dalai Lama is often quoted, “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”

That sounds great and all, but let’s get real: there are many times when our anger, frustration, sadness, and fear make it all-but-impossible to feel compassion for some people. Sometimes these “some people” are neighbors or colleagues, and sometimes these “some people” are political tribes, militaries, or entire nations. What is the disconnect between this obvious reality and what the Dalai Lama is talking about?

The truth is that I don’t know the answer to this question, but I do think I’ll learn a lot from each of you if we explore it together. We’ll start by watching two brief segments from an interview with a Buddhist teacher about compassion for our enemies, and allow the discussion to evolve from there.

Please consider joining the conversation this week. There are no right or wrong answers, no good or bad feelings. The only thing that matters is showing up, being present, and being willing to support one another.

Our warm-up question for this week:

Finish this sentence: As I see the leaves change color during fall, it makes me…
See you soon,
Alex
How spirituality can help protect us from despair and mental illness

How spirituality can help protect us from despair and mental illness

Hello friends,

Have you ever felt that receiving effective treatment for mental illness requires that we turn away from religious or spiritual support and instead seek help from clinicians? It’s easy to understand why this idea might have developed in encouraging people to seek structured, evidence-based care from trained mental health professionals. Have we gone too far in dismissing the role of religion and spirituality in protecting our mental health and combatting forms of mental illness?

Dr. Lisa Miller, a psychologist at Columbia University, would say that we’ve definitely underplayed the role of spirituality in preventing and treating depression specifically. In this week’s discussion we’re going to watch a brief video where Dr. Miller describes her research and what she and her team have found over multiple studies. Spoiler alert: she finds convincing evidence that spirituality–as defined by our connection to “something bigger than ourselves” (i.e., God)–can protect the human brain against despair and be an effective treatment for depression via altruism.

Maybe it’s time we move from “either or” to “both and” when it comes to religion and treatment for mental illness? Or is that a step in the wrong direction? Join us tomorrow to share your thoughts!

Our warm-up question for this week:

It’s said that certain scents can be very strongly tied to memories. What’s a memory you have, good or bad, that has a distinct smell associated with it?

See you soon,

Alex

They’re Contagious! (And That’s a Good Thing)

They’re Contagious! (And That’s a Good Thing)

Hello friends,

Hopefully you’ll forgive my “maybe it’s still too soon” subject line, because this week’s conversation topic is another great one and it even builds on our discussion last week.

That’s right: *emotions* are contagious. I say that’s a “good thing,” but the reality is that emotional contagion can be detrimental to our well-being, too. I guess it’s not really bad or good…it just is.

We’ll watch a brief video (https://youtu.be/TqRYpEDDCrg) on the subject that, while tailored to a business audience, is just as relevant to us outside of work and volunteer roles. It makes you think really hard a out the emotions you pass on to others, as well as what you allow yourself to receive from others. Our warm-up question for this week:

If you could only eat at one restaurant again for the rest of your life, but you could eat there as many times as you wished, what restaurant would it be and why?

See you soon,

Alex