Jul 14, 2023 | Mental Health Ministry, Stronger Together Support Group
Hello friends,
Have you ever wanted to yell at someone to “stop being so emotional!” Perhaps someone has said something similar to you? Or maybe sometimes you feel overtaken by emotion, and you wonder how other people are able to keep them at bay?
It turns out that a lot of what we think is happening with our emotions is closer to mythology than fact. Worse yet, our own brain will trick us into thinking emotions are something other than what they really are. What should we do about this to support strong mental well-being?
As always, we need to start with awareness and education. This week we’re going to watch a helpful video to get better educated about emotions and debunk some commonly-held myths. This learning can go a long way to helping us not just understand our own emotions better, but also turning them into a tool for personal growth.
Our warm-up question for this week:
Who is the most “emotional” character you can think of from a movie or TV show, and what makes them “emotional”?
See you soon,
Alex
Jul 6, 2023 | Mental Health Ministry, Stronger Together Support Group
Hello friends,
This week we’ll talk about “radical honesty,” a concept that is frequently used in addiction recovery but is useful for all of us. We’ll watch the first ~ 6 minutes of a video on The Power of Radical Honesty, but the full video is 15 minutes. I encourage you to watch the full 15 minutes beforehand if possible.
Our warm-up question for this week:
What’s a really nice compliment you received, and what impact did it have on you?
See you soon,
Alex
Jun 29, 2023 | Mental Health Ministry, Stronger Together Support Group
Hello friends,
Our conversation this week is about something we all can relate to: being wronged by someone. More specifically, what we do after we’ve been wronged. You probably know where this is going…forgiveness.
We’ve talked about forgiveness before in Stronger Together, but this week we’re going to focus on a particular science-backed strategy called the “REACH” method, which has been shown to make forgiveness a little easier to implement and live with. Here’s a highlight from the linked article:
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THE REACH FORGIVENESS METHOD
Think about the hardest thing you ever successfully forgave. Remind yourself that you CAN forgive.Rehearse the benefits to yourself of forgiving, and know that forgiveness might help your relationship, if it is safe, prudent, and possible to reconcile.
Work through the five steps to REACH emotional forgiveness.
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- R = Recall the hurt as objectively as you can.
- E = Empathize with the one who hurt you. Try, if possible, to see things from their viewpoint. If you can’t, use sympathy, compassion, or even love (particularly in romantic relationships) to replace the negative unforgiving emotions.
- A = Altruistic gift of forgiveness. No one deserves forgiveness. Forgiveness is your choice. If you choose to give it, it is an altruistic gift.
- C = Commit to the emotional forgiveness you experience.
- H = Hold on to forgiveness when you doubt that you’ve really forgiven.
Seek to make a decision to forgive, which is deciding not to pay the person back but to treat the person as a valuable and valued person. This is about your intention to treat the person differently.
Try to solidify your forgiveness by applying the REACH steps and making a decision to forgive in several other relationships that are not characterized by full forgiveness.
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Our warm-up question for this week:
What’s an instrument you wish you could play?
See you soon,
Alex
Jun 22, 2023 | Mental Health Ministry, Stronger Together Support Group
When we think about being “burned out,” we might be tempted to assume it’s an issue just for people in high-pressure workplaces. The truth is, you can experience burnout from volunteerism, family/health/medical issues, school, and more.
Of course we want to prevent burnout wherever possible, but just as importantly we want to find healthy ways to bounce back from burnout when it inevitably affects us. In this week’s conversation we’ll watch a video together to understand burnout better and how it differs from stress, and then talk about how we help ourselves and each other recover. Some things to think about between now and then:
- What did we use to call “burnout” before the term became commonplace?
- What cues do you look for in your own life to know when you’re at risk of being burnt out?
- Have you ever felt like you’re on a recurring cycle of feeling burnt out, taking a break to recover, and then getting burnt out again?
- How do you help other people when you sense they are feeling burnt out?
Our warm-up question for this week:
When was the last time you trusted someone “blindly,” and why?
Jun 15, 2023 | Mental Health Ministry, Stronger Together Support Group
Hello friends,
Don’t worry, experiencing “enlightenment” is not a prerequisite for this week’s conversation! In fact, according to Dr. Andrew Newberg, there are two kinds of enlightenment: enlightenment with a “lowercase e,” which changes our opinions about the world, and Enlightenment with a “capital E,” which changes our essence — that is, how we think about life, death, and God.
This week we’ll watch the video linked above about the neuroscience of enlightenment and engage in a broader conversation about this “slippery concept.” Some questions to ponder:
- Is “enlightenment” just another name for experiencing God?
- Have you ever felt enlightenment as described in the video? Did it change you permanently, or was it a temporary change?
- How should someone feel about their faith or their sense of self if they never have a moment of enlightenment?
Our warm-up question for this week:
What’s your favorite song to sing when nobody else is listening?
See you soon,
Alex
