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Two Things You Can Do to Stop Ruminating

Two Things You Can Do to Stop Ruminating

Hello Stronger Together Group,

I know when things don’t go my way I can start ruminating about them, and it can be challenging get out of that place even if I know I am doing it. The short video below is about all of that.  We will have to get past the short advertising by the presenter for her other products and we are not endorsing them here:)

Here is the link to the video: Two Things You Can Do To Stop Ruminating

Idea for a warmup question:  What is your favorite time of the day, and why?

See you all tomorrow, Thursday, at 7pm.  Stay cool!

Dee

How Enlightenment Changes Our Brain

How Enlightenment Changes Our Brain

Hello friends,

Don’t worry, experiencing “enlightenment” is not a prerequisite for this week’s conversation! In fact, according to Dr. Andrew Newberg, there are two kinds of enlightenment: enlightenment with a “lowercase e,” which changes our opinions about the world, and Enlightenment with a “capital E,” which changes our essence — that is, how we think about life, death, and God.

This week we’ll watch the video linked above about the neuroscience of enlightenment and engage in a broader conversation about this “slippery concept.” Some questions to ponder:

  • Is “enlightenment” just another name for experiencing God?
  • Have you ever felt enlightenment as described in the video? Did it change you permanently, or was it a temporary change?
  • How should someone feel about their faith or their sense of self if they never have a moment of enlightenment?

Our warm-up question for this week:

What’s your favorite song to sing when nobody else is listening?

See you soon,

Alex

Accepting That What Happened, Happened

Accepting That What Happened, Happened

Hello friends,

The first line of our shared article for this week sums up the oft-experienced frustration perfectly:

One of the hardest things for me in the aftermath of a conflict is getting out of my head and accepting that what happened, happened.

Why can’t we just summon up a little bit of Elsa magic and “let it go”? Why do we keep playing and replaying the situation in our minds, analyzing every word we said or should have said, even though there’s nothing to do about any of it?

In this week’s discussion we’ll talk through three practical strategies to reduce these “negative ruminations.” We’ll also watch a very brief video on ways to set better boundaries, which as you’ll see in the article is central to reducing the number of times we find ourselves in the types of conflict that lead to negative ruminations

Our warm-up question for this week:

Which Disney princesses are your most and least favorite? Yes, you read that right.

See you soon,

Alex

Living Without Purpose?

Hello friends,
I’m sure you’ve pondered the age-old question “what is the meaning of life?” In all likelihood your views on the answer to this question, or the relevancy of the question itself, have evolved over time. In this week’s discussion we’re going to approach it from a different angle: what would it be like if we got rid of the idea of “a purposeful life” altogether?
For many people, feeling like their life is “worthless” or that they aren’t living up to expectations has a major impact on their mental health. For some, mental illness itself can cause these feelings to occur and persist. It makes good sense then to explore what we even mean by “purpose” when the concept can be so closely tied to our well-being.
We’ll watch a brief video–but really it’s more of an audio recording–of Alan Watts talking about a life without purpose. If this is your first introduction to Alan Watts, you might want to read his Wikipedia entry to learn more about his life and career. In short, he’s a philosopher and writer who studied both Christianity and Asian religious traditions, publishing prolifically in and around the 1960s.
Our warm-up question for this week:

If you had to spend a year either living in solitude with no human contact (including phone/video/texting/etc.), or living in constant presence of others with no real time to yourself, which would you choose and why?

See you soon,
Alex